How long do you wait 2024

Siebert Outdoors reply :

on someone when you go fishing?

I went fishing sunday and waited way past my tolerence time of 10 minutes. After 25 I said forget you and went fishing. Got an excuse phone call about an hr later but I didnt answer it because I was fishing and didnt need a sob story. Something about over sleeping :-? Didnt know that was possible when going fishing. Work I would understand.

Here is how I feel on this topic.

I'm providing the boat, truck, and place to fish you better be on time or early.

Reverses if I am going with someone else I better be on time.

I will give them usually 5 minutes because of clock differences. After 10 min, I start to wonder, after 15 I start getting a little mad, about 20 I'm gone.

But after sunday, I think I am going to implement the rule of if your going with me you better be on time or sorry better luck next time if there is a next time. I'm not wasting my time waiting on someone when I have other guys wanting to go with me that show up on time. Yep, implementing the 10 minute rule. Unless I get a phone call before go time.

So, how do you guys feel on this issue?

Deuceu72 reply :

Personally, I couldnt agree more. I abhorr being late or having someone I'm waiting on being late.........If they can't show up on time, then they can find their own way to the lake........Just my .02 worth............

senile1 reply :

I tend to agree if someone has a habit of doing this. On the other hand, if they tend to always be on time and it was a one time thing, I would let it slide. Even the most prompt among us can have unexpected things occur that can cause them to be late or oversleep. This should be very rare, however.

roadwarrior reply :

I too have a ten minute rule for guys, but that rule doesn't apply around my house with girls! I don't think my wife or daughter have ever been on time for anything.

Back to fishing...no excuses.

Bassinfreak2 reply :

I have had the same problem. One of the guys who I have fished a team tournament circuit with this year has been late 5 out of six times and this was the morning of the tournaments! That is the only issues I have had with him. On everything else he is a heck of a fishing buddy. On the other hand I have another buddy who likes to go when I am practicing. He has never been late since we have started fishing together (20 plus yrs) and he is a great guy but if we dont start hauling in fish pretty quickly he gets bored and sits down and falls asleep quite often.

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I too have a ten minute rule for guys, but that rule doesn't apply around my house with girls! I don't think my wife or daughter have ever been on time for anything.
Back to fishing...no excuses.

lol i know what your sayin my mom is always late to everything if her life depended on it she would still be late

Valascus reply :

I agree with ya GMAN. Promptness is very important to me. I HATE being late for ANYTHING. I don't like it when other folks make me late either. If someone says they are gonna meet ya at such and such time to go fishing, they had better be there. I'll wait about 5-10 minutes depending on who it is then I am gone.

Banor reply :

We ARE talking about a nice enjoyable day on the water, right? Why stress yourself in the first 10 minutes of the day and set the tone for the rest of your day? Did it bother you the rest of the day? Obviously it did, you are posting about it 2 days later.

I try not to let things bother me that I cant control. In this situation I would have launched, started fishing and if they showed up, I have a cell phone they can call. I'll give them my location and they can swim to the boat. ;D If they dont show up, I havent lost anything.

Now, tournament day... or tournament practice days, you show up late you are going to be at the dock with your thumb out. Even so nothing is different than previously stated, I'll be out productively fishing and taking advantage of my God given right to enjoy the outdoors - NOT dwelling on it and let it distract me from the task at hand.

Siebert Outdoors reply :

Yep Valascus, when we went fishing it was nice. You were there waiting and we threw your stuff in and took off. Thats how it should go.

Couple of my other buddies have never been late either. If they were I would think something serious is wrong. They have never been late to any of our fishing excursions. Bad thing is they are busy and cant go that often.

flechero reply :

After countless angry trips, I no longer wait at all. I say I'm leaving at XX:XX time and I do. If you need to load gear, be there early because I pull out of the driveway at the specified time... one exception... a phone call BEFORE leaving time to say you are going to be a few minutes late, and that only buys 5-10 minutes.

One guy used to avg 20-60 minutes late... once I put the foot down and left him, he's never been late again.

I left my wife at home once (and went on to a family gathering) just to make my point. She wasn't impressed but she's rarely late anymore. ...lol

Rules to live by... "I'd rather be an hour early than a minute late." -unknown

Bassinfreak2 reply :

Flechero

You left your Wife at home!?!??? Man I wish i had the guts to pull that off! LOL!

BD reply :

If I am not on time for work, or anything other for that matter, it 'ruins' my day. I like the minute rule, but 15 is probably better........things happen, and without coming across to friends and family as a militant on time management. lol

flechero reply :

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Flechero
You left your Wife at home!?!??? Man I wish i had the guts to pull that off! LOL!

It took many days of "want to" before I actually worked up the curage to do it... I finally convinced her it was just as easy to wake up 10 minutes earlier and always be on time... I felt like it was a reflection on me that "we" were always 10 minutes late.

If you ever try it, be prepared to couch it for a few days.

Banor reply :

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Flechero
You left your Wife at home!?!??? Man I wish i had the guts to pull that off! LOL!

If this was your wife's family's gathering, that would be priceless!!

YakAttack reply :

I agree 100% with you. I am always early and kind of expect everyone else to be too. Thats the way I was brought up and I am now trying to teach this to my wife and kids. The kids are doing alot better than the wife. I just tell her I want to leave an hour before I really want to and then she is USUALLY ready when I actually wanted to leave.

Back on topic..

10 mins is way more than enough time to wait on someone.

Live.2.Fish reply :

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Posted by: GMAN Posted on: Today at 12:08pm
Yep, implementing the 10 minute rule.

Yes, I implemented that rule today actually. It was is in Native American Studies Class today. The professor never showed, so after ten minutes of waiting we all just got up and went home. It was great. ;D

But, with regards to fishing. Absolutely, if you are not ready to go at the right time, I'm out! I will wait ten bonus minutes and then I forget about it and start fishing. If i'm providing everything, the least you can do is be on time.

Murray reply :

the only excuse i take is invulantary expelling of bodily fluids.

biteme reply :

Hmm Ive never had that problem. I call when I get up. Tell em to be here on time or Im leaving. I dont get up earl to wait for others. If I did I would sleep in!

Sam reply :

Being late for anything is an insult to the person you keep waiting.

For some, it is a sickness. These individuals cannot get their act together to be on time.

It is self centered and self serving to be late, especially when the other person has gone to a lot of time, expense and trouble to have you involved in the activity.

We have friends who are habitually late so everyone tells them that the party or dinner starts either an hour or half hour earlier so they will be close to the designated time.

I agree with the philosophy to just go on with the party or fishing trip and if the individuals continue to be late cross them off your guest list.

Especially for fishing when you have only a certain time on the water.

Bud reply :

I agree with you 1000%. I rather be 20 min early than 1 min late. flechero it did the same thing. after several time telling her to hurray up I left her. After that she is always ready

GAMEOVER reply :

Hey if your providing the boat, gas, and transportation its pretty much your show. I or anyone else who didnt have a boat etc would gladly tag along by your simple needs. Deffinatly his loss, not yours..

Low_Budget_Hooker reply :

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Rules to live by... "I'd rather be an hour early than a minute late." -unknown

Well, being a UPS driver,...I live by this one.

As flechero said, a phone call will hold me 10 mins, other than that, if you are going to be late and didn't have the courtesy to call, you will pull up to a missing boat and host.

Fortunately, I have very timely partners.

dale reply :

the best statement I have for time is

Early is on time

on time is late

and late is unacceptable

also I hate it when a guy only brings one cup of coffee...lol

jomatty reply :

being late is a major bone of contention between my wife and i. i rarely lose my temper with her but when we are already late and i see her taking clothes she just put on off again i lose it (rarely do i get upset about women undressing). we are already late and she is still looking for the perfect outfit. arghhhhh

she dosent seem to mind sying sorry and thats it for her but for me it eats me up every second until we get there and is very embarrasing to have to make lame excuses. we have a 3 year old son so sometimes xxxx happens but you can bet i would never be late for a fishing trip. i have a hard time finding guys to go fishing with (well at least finding guys with a boat). if someone is nice enough to want to go you can bet that ill be waiting when he gets there (with two cups of coffee)

my wife would show up 30 min. late but would have the perfect outfit.

matt

MALTESE FALCON reply :

I HAVE A BROTHER THAT IS A GREAT GUY, GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR,INTELLIGENT, AND A GOOD FISHERMAN. BUT HE HAS NO CONCEPT OF TIME. HE IS LATE FOR EVERYTHING. ONE DAY I LEFT THE HOUSE WITHOUT HIM AND HE HAS NEVER BEEN LATE SINCE. THE BEST PART OF IT ALL IS I HAD THE BEST DAY OF THE WHOLE SEASON THAT DAY AND I RUBBED IT IN FOR A WEEK.

Aaron reply :

I hate being late too. And I hate waiting on people. The guy I usually fish with is always 15 - 30 minutes late for EVERYTHING, but its his boat so I have to deal with that. Any other time though he gets a good a** chewing or gets left.

Lady Bass reply :

I don't mind waiting a little bit but then I leave.I figure something is up and they will know where to find me.I can't believe some of you guys left your wife behind.if my husband did that to me he would pay a heavy price.!!

Low_Budget_Hooker reply :

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if my husband did that to me he would pay a heavy price.!!

double digit heavy! Personally, the "meet point" time is set so we can be a specific place at a specific time.

Lady Bass reply :

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if my husband did that to me he would pay a heavy price.!!

double digit heavy! Personally, the "meet point" time is set so we can be a specific place at a specific time.

I know what you mean and that's a good rule to stand by.

SENKOSAM reply :

Depends on whom I've invited to go fishing on my boat.

The simple fact of it is - I like to fish with others and value their input, knowledge and company. If I've made the offer to a newbie, you better believe he needs to tell me if he'll be late, how late and the time he gets to the launch by cell. No cell? Too bad! :'(

If I've invited an experienced angler or friend, I would expect a phone call to be able to plan the launch. Heck, I'll pick you up when you get to the launch, but I'll start fishing in the mean time. If you have to wait at the launch, so be it! The other option is to ride in my vehicle to the launch and be on time at my house unless a valid excuse is offered (IE car broke down, traffic jam, got lost, fell down the stairs). I no longer wait for people who have unexpected priorities that prevent them from being ready and waiting (had to get a fishing lic., go to the deli or had to do something for the wife).

In my club, we are tolerant of late boaters, but start without them. We bend the rules because we don't treat any tournament like a BASS classic and though competitive, never take things that serious.

Fishing is about fun, not frustration, and plan B is always available to minimize disruption of my peace of mind on the water. Some have a different time table, I have mine and sometimes they don't conincide. Being late might be forgiven twice, but not again.

SPEEDBEAD. reply :

I work for the Pennsylvania Department of Public Welfare...I am around many people on a daily basis that are unable to understand the importance of being on time for appointments. This has to do with providing for your family's needs for food, medical assistance, etc...and I have NO TOLERANCE for those who are late.

Fishing for fun, I can live with someone being late, just not too late....

Tournament day....well, lets just say your rear end better be where it needs to be. Luckily enough, the partner doesnt keep me waiting. He is usually the one in the driveway first...

Matt Fly reply :

The ground rules are set on the first trip. I or we leave at 5 am, not 5:01. At 5:01 i'm on the road.

If its tourney, half the money invested is mine, so I call to ensure that my half is not wasted and partner is up and running.

I don't get upset if you are late or don't call. I was going anyway. I don't even want an excuse, that just makes it easier to do the same thing again later down the road if your given the opportunity again.

Matt.

Fish Chris reply :

I wouldn't wait at all..... Instead, I would start fishing very close to the launch ramp (so I could still see him when he arrived. SOOO many people overlook the fact that launch ramps are often some of the best fishing areas on the lake ! I often get a good laugh, out of the guys in the 80 mph high-per bass boats, who think the only place the fish will bite, is on the far end of the lake ;-)

In any case, I almost never have to wait on anybody, because I almost never fish with anyone. If I want to leave early, or late, I will ! I call all of the shots on my fishing trips.

Peace,

Fish

Laggyman reply :

You guys might think I'm out of my mind!!

I wait about 20min for my girl to get ready everytime I go fishing. And I'm willing to wait patiently because I think fishing is no fun without a great partner. I'm just a fun-fish kind of guy and it's OK because I fish 1hr more after we call it quits anyway ;D

Worst part is not waiting for your partner, but getting past the darned traffic jams..... This summer I managed to get myself caught in a mess. 40km long traffic jam at 4:00AM!! On the Highway... Took me more than twice what it usually takes.... aaarrgh Those drunk drivers who manage to wreck their cars in ways unimaginable

Dan: reply :

You could leave on time, but your friends are gonna start thinking you are inconsiderate. Humans are more important than fish, remember that. Don't you like fishing with the people you invite? Then why the intolerance to their lateness? I can understand if a guy does it a dozen times, but if it's just a couple, I mean come on, everyone runs late every now and then. Just give the guy a call to see what's up with him and when he'll be there. For all you know, he could be getting eaten by a pack of rabid dogs or something terrible. Then wouldn't you feel bad.

Shad_Master reply :

We used to have a guy in our club that got booted out for this very reason -- he was always late and sometimes didn't show at all. Never seemed to be remorseful either. I got drawn to fish with him at one tournament and decided the best way to be on time was if I offered to pull his boat with my truck -- I figured if I had the boat I would have him -- the morning of the tournament we woke up at 5:30 for a 7:00 blast (we were about 20 minutes from the lake) and he got completely dressed and then announced he was going to take a shower. While he was showering, I put all the stuff in the boat so that when he came out all he had to do was get in the truck and we could go. As we were pulling out of the parking lot, he announced that he needed gas for the boat. I pulled into the gas station and went in to buy ice for the cooler. When I came out, I passed him going in. The pump had not been turned on??? So I filled the boat up with gas and went to let him know he could pay (I had paid for the motel and the gas to drive us to the lake). He was walking around the aisles of the gas station "looking at stuff". I told him we needed to go and he wandered up to the cashier. Before paying, he struck up a conversation about how the fishing had been. I told, "tick-tock", we gotta go. He finally paid and we pulled out. Got to the ramp just as the last boat was being launched . It took us almost 1 1/2 hours to travel 20 minutes.

The guy was a heck of a fisherman, but not dependable. The next year the club voted him out.

flechero reply :

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Humans are more important than fish...

That also goes for the guy waiting for you to show up... respect the person you are supposed to meet. When I invite someone, I go out of my way... supply the boat, gas, in some cases tackle and rods, food, beverages and work much like a guide to ensure they have a good time... All I / we ask is that you show an ounce of courtesy and be on time, or call if you are running late. It takes a hell of a lot less effort than I have already put out to get things ready for the day.

I see the point you are trying to make but what about the inconsiderate person who is late? And I sit there awake, wasting time, looking to take someone out on a fishing trip (or hunting trip) and they don't even have the decency to call and say "I'm running late"... B.S. to that!!

If I say I will meet you at xxxx time... I will be there a few minutes before and on the OFF chance I am running a few minutes late, you will have been called earlier to say I was running late... because I am considerate. If I am late and haven't called- please call the police because I have been in a terrible accident and can't dial my cell phone. It's just not that hard to be on time or at least pick up the stupid phone.

Ok, off the soapbox now.

roadwarrior reply :

Hmm...

My wife calls me "anal-retentive". I have three Atomic Clocks. My watches are within 1 second of "real time". I have been 39 years old for 15 years, and I have NEVER been late for ANYTHING. My wife compliments all of the components of a magnet, she has NEVER been on time for ANYTHING.

I have a great deal of tolerance for everything, but I am NEVER late.

Hale reply :

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I left my wife at home once (and went on to a family gathering) just to make my point. She wasn't impressed but she's rarely late anymore.

This happened on an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond. Raymond was tired of always being late, he leaves her behind, and well youll have to watch it. Funny stuff!!!

Bassassasin12 reply :

just last week I met up with a member from the board and I made sure I left half an hour earlier than the time he set to meet at so I wouldnt hold him up and I could show respect and make a good impression. It is just common sense not to be late for things. I was there fishing from the shore when he pulled up, we loaded my stuff up, launched the boat, and took off. I agree with GMAN thats the way it should be.

Panamoka_Bassin reply :

I am constantly baraged by people being late, and it drives me nuts. I am one to always be early, or at worst, right on time. Lately, thought, it seems my girlfriend has been making me late for things and I am close to blowing my top with her. I have repeatedly told her we need to be somewhere @ such a time, and she shows up to my house at that time (or generally later). She made us VERY late to my best friends b-day party (over 1 1/2 hrs late), and I let her know how dissappointed I was. For a while she was very good about being on time, but lately she's been sliding back to old ways. I don't like to get mad, especially at her, but it seems like its the only way to get her to understand that I don't like being late.

Rather than whining and fighting about it, though, I think that there has to be a way to teach her to be more ontime that doesn't result in me sleeping alone. I've tried being patient, and if I leave her behind like some of you guys have, I'll be sleeping alone for a VERY long time. I think I might need to find that happy middle ground. Anyone know where that is?

Chug Bug reply :

This reply is going to make you guys hate your late budies even more.. We had in-service training one year a couple years ago with a Psychiatrist who specialized in personality disorders. Now I don't know if this is scientific fact or not, but it was what this Doctor told us. Persons who are habitually or even generally late are suffering from an axis of self important protocol. They derive great joy and a brief feeling that they are the most powerful person in the world if they know that they are able to control other people by keeping them waiting, or not enabling them to start an important meeting, event, or function. When they finally do arrive, they are invariably the center of attention which further enhances their feelings of grandeur even if the attention is negative.

roadwarrior reply :

P_B,

Plan EVERYTHING a half hour early and DON"T cave, that is, never tell her your plan or it won't work. I do this all the time and although we are occasionally early, we are never late if I'm the one making the plans.

liquidsoap reply :

Maybe he was trying to be fashionably late??? ;D

Just kidding, I would give him no more then 5 minutes, and if he was not on time then I would call them and tell them sorry about your luck.

ScroGG ToGG reply :

Man yall are lucky to even have someone to BE running late. Most all of my friends are "too cool" to go fishing.

Keithscatch reply :

I'm not anal retentive like some of you all. I am the guy with the boat and sometimes when I tell folks to meet me at such and such time I arrive a few minutes late. If they are not there which most often is not the case I will wait for them. But like I said it hardly if ever happens. I had a friend in Texas who was late allot. He was late for a Skeeter owners tournament by 1 hour one time. I waited 10 minutes for him and went fishing that day anyway. I later picked his sorry butt up at the ramp and we had a bad day that day because of it.

RiskKid. reply :

I agree 100%. I do not own a boat so any invitation for me is like a million bucks. I tend to be early and grateful for the invitation. I just think thats common courtesy if someone is nice enough to take you out. It would get under my skin if I had the boat and invited someone.

BassKing813 reply :

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After countless angry trips, I no longer wait at all. I say I'm leaving at XX:XX time and I do. If you need to load gear, be there early because I pull out of the driveway at the specified time... one exception... a phone call BEFORE leaving time to say you are going to be a few minutes late, and that only buys 5-10 minutes.
One guy used to avg 20-60 minutes late... once I put the foot down and left him, he's never been late again.

I left my wife at home once (and went on to a family gathering) just to make my point. She wasn't impressed but she's rarely late anymore. ...lol

Rules to live by... "I'd rather be an hour early than a minute late." -unknown

Sounds like somebody spent the night on the couch, lol. ;D

GeneinTX reply :

My view is this: I work all week, my time is valuable. I will not wait for anyone, period. I spent 21 years in the army and nearly all of my friends are military. Theya can make it for work they can make it to fish!

We always had a saying in the army "if you are 10 minutes early, you are late"

Now, Flechero, you are my hero. I ahve wanted to do that so many times!!! I am sure I will tomorrow morning!!

I usually fish with my 14 Y/O son, I have to wake him up like 300 times in the morning to go out on a Saturday, he eventually does, but it is hard.

cart7t reply :

This thread reminds me of an old story that happened on time when I was in this bass club. We had a tourney at Lake of the Ozarks, long known for it's night life. A some of the guys went into town for some drinking and maybe to get lucky. The next morning one of the guys was nowhere to be found. He had told his partner if he wasn't there to go out without him (The boat was his!). Sure enough, his boatless partner wasn't sure what to do so he asked us and we told him to take out his boat and fish just like he said.

As we were floating around in the cove waiting for the takeoff time we hear car horn blaring in the distance getting louder. Here comes the guy hauling butt down the road to the resort horn blaring. He pulls up to the dock and gets out, still without his pants zipped or buckled. Quite a scene. ;D

Dane reply :

When I was up for the big promotion at work, I was asked how late I considered "late". I answered 10 minutes early is 5 minutes late. I got the promotion.

"On-Time" for me has always been 15 minutes early. Maybe it goes back to high school and college ball practice, where practice is at 4, but you are in the the gym, ready to go, at 3:45.

It's just common courtesy.. I can't say I wont wait more than 10-15 mins, I'd probably wait as much as 45, but we all know, being late is disrespectful.

Crabcakes reply :

Only a few of my good buddies go fishing so If they're late I wait for them. Even if people try very hard to be on time things can come up (traffic accident etc.). I do get annoyed when no phone call or notice is given. Generally if a phone call is given I'm willing to wait as long as its not a common occurrence. I'm sure if these weren't my good friends i'd be stricter.

Gatorbassman reply :

Ya'll have it all set up wrong. See I live on the way to the lake. Spotaholic pulls the boat up to the end of my driveway and I load up and we go.

Siebert Outdoors reply :

Went fishing sunday with another buddy. His Bday party was saturday night. Well this is one of the guys that is never late. I figured he would be a little hung over and a few minutes late.

Guess what I pulled up at go time and he was waiting there. Ready to roll. Threw is stuff in the boat and rolled out. 8-)

I'm glad alot of you guys look at it the same as I do. I dont have alot of time anymore and what time I do have isnt going to be spent waiting on someone to show up, well maybe show up. I realized the other day how anal I am about being on time. I was on the cell phone to one of my buddies and he was going to fix some electrical work for me. He said how long until you get home. I said 7 minutes. His response was odd. Usually someone says 5 or 10. Basically an even number. Not me, I noticed I judge traffic and situation and give a more exact time. Thats kind of anal, but thats me. Oh by the way it took 6 minutes not 7 but I was real darn close. Procrastination or laziness are not excuses.

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