White lies to go fishing... 2024
Junger reply :
Just curious if I'm not the only guy who tells his wife or significant other little white lies to get out fishing more. On the weekends, it's soccer, swim meets (these things start at 7AM), all that fun family stuff. And when I do get a chance to fish on a weekend, I always offer to take my boys (5 & 8). But that means that I'm usually spending most of my time helping them fish, for now.
So to get my own fishing time in, I've been telling my wife I'm going to the gym after dinner, but really I've been going fishing from 7PM to past sunset at some local ponds. Exercise is exercise right? 
Scott F reply :
It would be hard to sneak out undetected when my boat is missing from the garage.
Junger reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 9:56 PM, Scott F said:It would be hard to sneak out undetected when my boat is missing from the garage.
Yeah, that too. But I go bank fishing at local ponds, and it's been really fun lately.
NYWayfarer reply :
No lies here. My wife would smell the fish on me when I get home and I would be busted. 
Life should be a balance of time with the family and time to yourself. When one is out of whack is when the problems start.
gimruis reply :
"Some men run their house, and some men run around their house." - Sam Cassell 
Bluebasser86 reply :
My wife and I work different schedules, so I don't have to lie about it, she knows how much I fish.
Junger reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 10:05 PM, gimruis said:"Some men run their house, and some men run around their house." - Sam Cassell
So I had to look up who Sam Cassell is, and I only get the basketball player.
I go by the "A happy wife, is a happy life" kind of mantra.
NYWayfarer reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 10:45 PM, Junger said:
I go by the "A happy wife, is a happy life" kind of mantra.
That mantra is usually followed by another one:
"Why do men die before their wives? Because they want to."
J Francho reply :
If you gotta lie to your partner to get what you want out of life, I'd say there's a bigger issue.
Junger reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 11:00 PM, J Francho said:If you gotta lie to your partner to get what you want out of life, I'd say there's a bigger issue.
My issue is, I have a pretty addictive personality. I want to go fishing 24/7. I just got back into angling last April, and I've spent a lot of money on gear, tackle and a boat since then. It's my issue more than hers I'd say. I'm probably overreacting and should just tell her I'm going fishing, but I'm really just not trying to stir the pot...because if she really wanted to, she could do the math on my gear and tackle, and the amount of time I've been fishing that she knows of and make me feel like ****.
Gotta find that balance I guess, but fishing is too good right now!
scaleface reply :
" I have a small job to do up by the lake . I might as well go fishing afterwards ."
senile1 reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 9:53 PM, Junger said:So to get my own fishing time in, I've been telling my wife I'm going to the gym after dinner, but really I've been going fishing from 7PM to past sunset at some local ponds. Exercise is exercise right?
Is there a reason why your wife accepts the gym excuse over fishing? Going to the gym incurs monthly or yearly fees as well.
On 6/6/2018 at 11:00 PM, J Francho said:If you gotta lie to your partner to get what you want out of life, I'd say there's a bigger issue.
I don't know your wife or your relationship and I can only make statements from what I know about my own marriage, but I would have to sit down and have a serious dialogue with my wife if I felt that I needed to lie about what I am doing. I don't have to tell you that honesty is pretty important in a relationship. If you lie about one thing and she catches you, you've just damaged her trust that you won't lie about something else far more important.
WRB reply :
Would you want your spouse to lie to you? If you can't be honest to your wife your marriage is in trouble, get it out in the open and come to a understanding. Taking a "mental health" day off work is perfectly understandable!
Tom
A-Jay reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 11:34 PM, senile1 said:Is there a reason why your wife accepts the gym excuse over fishing? Going to the gym incurs monthly or yearly fees as well.
I don't know your wife or your relationship and I can only make statements from what I know about my own marriage, but I would have to sit down and have a serious dialogue with my wife if I felt that I needed to lie about what I am doing. I don't have to tell you that honesty is pretty important in a relationship. If you lie about one thing and she catches you, you've just damaged her trust that you won't lie about something else far more important.
Well my gym is down stairs so that's out . . . .
And my wife's all about my fishing.
I'll often get the "You need to go fishing" line.
Which now that I think about it, may or may not be that good . . . .
A-Jay
Junger reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 11:51 PM, WRB said:Would you want your spouse to lie to you? If you can't be honest to your wife your marriage is in trouble, get it out in the open and come to a understanding. Taking a "mental health" day off work is perfectly understandable!
Tom
I see what you're saying. In my pea sized mind, a little white lie of saying I'm going to the gym when I'm really fishing is no harm, no foul...but yes, if the roles were reversed it would bother me.
redmexican5081 reply :
I "work late" maybe 2-3 days a month. Realistically i get out early 2-3 days a month and spend that time, and maybe a little longer if the bite is good, fishing a pond near my office.
Catt reply :
Don't lie to my wife for any reason!
I fish...she shops ????
Junger reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 11:55 PM, redmexican5081 said:I "work late" maybe 2-3 days a month. Realistically i get out early 2-3 days a month and spend that time, and maybe a little longer if the bite is good, fishing a pond near my office.
Alright...so I'm not the only one.
Log Catcher reply :
I always tell my wife when and where I am fishing. She wants to know so if anything happens she knows where to look for the body and collect the insurance.
WRB reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 11:55 PM, Catt said:Don't lie to my wife for any reason!
I fish...she shops ????
^^^this^^^ and she is better at shopping
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Mike L reply :
Never felt I had to lie about something I wanted to do.
After 48 yrs I'd like to think she didn't either.
Mike
Hez reply :
My old lady knows where I'm at lol. She knows if I'm not at work, home or baseball practice...I'm out fishing....
Plus all she has to do is check the garage to see if my boat is gone lol.
Like others said, she knows how much I love fishing...and that is most likely where I will be.
Catt reply :
My wife compares it to Garth Brooks song Rodeo
His eyes are cold and restless
His wounds have almost healed And she'd give half of Texas Just to change the way he feels She knows his love's in Texas
And she knows he's gonna go
She does her best to hold him
When his love comes to call
But his need for it controls him
And her back's against the wall
And it's So long girl, I'll see you
When it's time for him to go
senile1 reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 11:53 PM, A-Jay said:Well my gym is down stairs so that's out . . . .
And my wife's all about my fishing.
I'll often get the "You need to go fishing" line.
Which now that I think about it, may or may not be that good . . . .
A-Jay
Same here with regard to the gym. Years ago I worked out at a gym outside the home but I took care of that in my early 30s and have had my own equipment ever since.
bhoff reply :
Just tell her you're ripping lips so hard you're getting an arm work out.
BassWhole! reply :
Nope, no point anyway. She's a trained interrogator.
jbmaine reply :
Personally, I would never lie to my wife, but even if I wanted to I couldn't. It's pretty hard to lie to her about fishing when she's sitting right next to me in the boat.
OkobojiEagle reply :
I consider "white" to be a hi-vis color...
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islandbass reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 10:02 PM, NYWayfarer said:No lies here. My wife would smell the fish on me when I get home and I would be busted.
Life should be a balance of time with the family and time to yourself. When one is out of whack is when the problems start.
Bam! No amount of soap or sanitizer can totally eliminate the fishy smell from my hands if I did that.
So if I say I'm going to the gym, I go to the gym, then fish. You know, maybe 30-45 minutes at the gym and the remaining time fishing. For me, even a teeny, tiny white lie would affect my conscience and therefore my fishing.
Siebert Outdoors reply :
No lies here. I say I'm going fishing. Wanna go?
lo n slo reply :
i married the best gal in the world
rtwvumtneer6 reply :
On 6/7/2018 at 4:18 AM, Siebert Outdoors said:No lies here. I say I'm going fishing. Wanna go?
Same here... 9/10 the answer is, "No, but you can go if you want."
Even if I could live with the lie, the yellow stained fingers and lingering scent of garlic would give it away. She's still sensitive to the smells of fishing. I tell her it takes me a day of hard work on the water to smell that good!
Rahlow reply :
Lie to the wife? Does that mean you catch hell for fishing? I got 99 problems but a ***** ain’t 1.
Edit to ask: What ya gonna tell her when ya catch a personal best?
Another lie?
Quarry Man reply :
I told my parents that I had to go fishing as part of an english project, being like Thoreau and exploring the wilderness. Ended up writing about a different time on the water, but I got to go fishing and skip soccer practice!
YaknBassn reply :
I guess I got lucky. My wife tells me to go fishing whenever I start to irritate her just a bit.
For me, fishing is an acceptable excuse to get out of nearly anything.
"My parents want to do brunch Saturday."
"I was planning on going to the lake."
"Oh, well...I'll just tell them you had to work."
A-Jay reply :
On 6/7/2018 at 10:52 AM, YaknBassn said:I guess I got lucky. My wife tells me to go fishing whenever I start to irritate her just a bit.
For me, fishing is an acceptable excuse to get out of nearly anything.
"My parents want to do brunch Saturday."
"I was planning on going to the lake."
"Oh, well...I'll just tell them you had to work."
So your wife lies for you . . . .
Sweet.
A-Jay
Goldstar225 reply :
Well, most of the folks here spoke out against lying and so shall I. Calling it a white lie is just rationalizing it to justify it to yourself. If you can't man up enough to tell your wife the truth about fishing, what else will you lie about?
Of course one other person admitted doing the same thing so maybe that's all the reinforcement you need to make yourself OK with it.
Junger reply :
On 6/7/2018 at 11:08 AM, Goldstar225 said:Well, most of the folks here spoke out against lying and so shall I. Calling it a white lie is just rationalizing it to justify it to yourself. If you can't man up enough to tell your wife the truth about fishing, what else will you lie about?
Of course one other person admitted doing the same thing so maybe that's all the reinforcement you need to make yourself OK with it.
Actually, I think everyone just helped me understand that it's me that has the problem. I'm really not sure why I'm trying to hide it. I think I'm a really good father, I spend a lot of time with my kids when they're awake, I spend a lot of time with my wife and even watch her shows with her (Jersey Shore, Dancing with the Stars, Catfish)...maybe I just feel guilty asking her for time to myself. Anyways, I'm going fishing Friday after hitting some golf balls after work, and that'll be the first step in stopping these white lies.
Goldstar225 reply :
On 6/7/2018 at 11:27 AM, Junger said:Actually, I think everyone just helped me understand that it's me that has the problem. I'm really not sure why I'm trying to hide it. I think I'm a really good father, I spend a lot of time with my kids when they're awake, I spend a lot of time with my wife and even watch her shows with her (Jersey Shore, Dancing with the Stars, Catfish)...maybe I just feel guilty asking her for time to myself. Anyways, I'm going fishing Friday after hitting some golf balls after work, and that'll be the first step in stopping these white lies.
I think that if you make that change, you will have more respect for yourself. Good luck and best wishes.
DINK WHISPERER reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 10:05 PM, gimruis said:"Some men run their house, and some men run around their house." - Sam Cassell
So glad I don't ever have to put "can I" in front of anything! ????
Traumabrew reply :
I am no longer married. But the bottom line is honesty is the best policy. If I ever get married again, I will tell her exactly what I'm doing. You need to have trust in any relationship. You need to trust her enough to tell her you are going fishing. Think about her reactions and thoughts when she finds out you are not going to the gym. She will think you are out fishing but not for bass if you know what I mean....
NHBull reply :
Mine encourages me....
I prefer to think she wants me to relax,
but it could be she just wants me out of her hair..????
LionHeart reply :
Never lie to my wife, and I expect the same from her. There are no white lies, just lies.
BrianinMD reply :
No lies, just a text or let her know I am going fishing and when i would be gone.
Week long trip to Alabama earlier this year, text conversation was a total of "I won't be home the week of ***", "why", "Going fishing in Alabama"....all done.
Even though people get married they are still individuals and need their time. As stated before if you have to lie you got bigger issues.
MrFrost reply :
I learned a very valuable lesson on the damage a stupid small lie can do. I am guilty of "little white lies" and then I actually told a substantial lie, and got caught. Realized the reason I lied (about a non-fishing purchase) was because subconsciously I knew it was a very bad timed and selfish purchase, that the wife wouldn't have had a problem with me making, but I knew it was selfish, so I hid it and lied about it.
Now, to avoid damaging the trust I have re-established, when asked a question I will immediately respond 100% truthful because it's easier to be honest even if the truth hurts than it is to rebuild trust.
NYWayfarer reply :
On 6/7/2018 at 10:12 PM, BrianinMD said:Week long trip to Alabama earlier this year, text conversation was a total of "I won't be home the week of ***", "why", "Going fishing in Alabama"....all done.
No offense, but I could not imagine texting my wife to tell her I would be gone for a week. Seems like something that should be discussed in person.
This goes to show everyone's situation is unique. Only you know what your spouse will tolerate.
12poundbass reply :
On 6/7/2018 at 6:33 AM, Rahlow said:What ya gonna tell her when ya catch a personal best?
Another lie?
LonnieP reply :
I don't understand the difference in going to the gym and going fishing?
Yeajray231 reply :
What you gonna do when she sees no progress from the "gym" ? Lol
If the worst thing you do behind her back is fish, then you're a good man. If she doesn't allow you to fish (given all the immoral things you could be doing) then you should probably choose a different partner.
BrianinMD reply :
On 6/7/2018 at 10:55 PM, NYWayfarer said:No offense, but I could not imagine texting my wife to tell her I would be gone for a week. Seems like something that should be discussed in person.
This goes to show everyone's situation is unique. Only you know what your spouse will tolerate.
When you are in different places you chose a manner of communication which is available. If questions exist you can go over them later. She encourages me to fish and go on trips. It was because of her I bought my boat, all she said was do it now while you can you can never predict the future. She has her horses and her time away too.
Lures'n'Liberty reply :
None of this would be an issue if you name your boat Jim.
LxVE Bassin reply :
“I’m going fishing, I’ll be back”
Bass Turd reply :
Me: I'm either going fishing or I am going to cheat on you. Your choice.
Her: Happy fishing!
SloppyJ reply :
My wife is most always in the back of the boat so no worries for me. I catch crap when I take my friends fishing and not her. There is one thing i miss sometimes..... silence. ????
the reel ess reply :
I have told work some white lies, like I have an appointment and won't be back. It's not really a lie, I just don't elaborate. But lately, work has been to steady to take off. Also, it's hot, so the bite has moved to morning and late evening. It's not dark until about 9:00. I can make that.
J Francho reply :
"Lies by omission" are something I've been very guilty of in the past. Something I'm constantly trying to break the habit of.
EGbassing reply :
But what do you do if you catch the world record bass while you're "working out"? ????
BassNJake reply :
On 6/7/2018 at 11:27 AM, Junger said:Actually, I think everyone just helped me understand that it's me that has the problem. I'm really not sure why I'm trying to hide it. I think I'm a really good father, I spend a lot of time with my kids when they're awake, I spend a lot of time with my wife and even watch her shows with her (Jersey Shore, Dancing with the Stars, Catfish)...maybe I just feel guilty asking her for time to myself. Anyways, I'm going fishing Friday after hitting some golf balls after work, and that'll be the first step in stopping these white lies.
You should get a free pass anytime you want if you gotta watch Jersey Shore
blongfishing reply :
Lied to my teacher over email saying that I had the flu and I wouldn’t be back for the rest of the week when I was really gone to a fishing tournament. The whole class made me a card that said “Get Well Soon!”. They still to this day think I had the flu. The things I do for fishing.
LionHeart reply :
On 6/7/2018 at 11:27 AM, Junger said:Actually, I think everyone just helped me understand that it's me that has the problem. I'm really not sure why I'm trying to hide it. I think I'm a really good father, I spend a lot of time with my kids when they're awake, I spend a lot of time with my wife and even watch her shows with her (Jersey Shore, Dancing with the Stars, Catfish)...maybe I just feel guilty asking her for time to myself. Anyways, I'm going fishing Friday after hitting some golf balls after work, and that'll be the first step in stopping these white lies.
Dude, everybody's family is different but if you are married with kids and get to golf and fish in the same day, I should be asking you for advice.
3dees reply :
I hate to lie, so I just got rid of my wife. problem solved.
Junger reply :
On 6/8/2018 at 9:33 PM, LionHeart said:Dude, everybody's family is different but if you are married with kids and get to golf and fish in the same day, I should be asking you for advice.
Taking one of my boys fishing afterwork, and she's taking the other to swim practice, so it's team work there. Not getting a round in, but I have a lighted range near me, so I'll go there after sunset and hit a bucket with some beers. If I went fishing and played a full round, I'd be gone for 12 hours!
Columbia Craw reply :
I just tell my wife i'm going to see my girlfriend and then go fishing.
Lures'n'Liberty reply :
On 6/8/2018 at 9:33 PM, LionHeart said:Dude, everybody's family is different but if you are married with kids and get to golf and fish in the same day, I should be asking you for advice.
I've wondered a few times if I should throw a telescopic rod and a couple lures in my golf bag. If I could get a couple casts in every time I put a ball in the water I might catch a lot of fish.
rejesterd reply :
Me: I gotta head up to camp before you to check on the camper.. you don't want that A/C to quit working this weekend RIGHT???
Her: Gee, I haven't heard that excuse before.. brilliant.
Ratherbefishing75 reply :
There are a lot of different things you can tell your wife but at he end of it it’s your call my wife knows when I go luckley me I work near a couple small ponds near work so I go at lunch and she is a school teacher so on vacations when I don’t have to drop my sun off at school I go in to work early aka I go fishng
hawgwash reply :
My best advice to you is to start telling your wife the truth. If she were to find out you weren't going to any of these places you've been lying about just to go fishing it could have really negative effects on your whole relationship.
Start telling her the truth. You'll feel a whole lot better knowing that she knows exactly what you're doing and you didn't have to fib to do it.
Choporoz reply :
Holy cow....
This fishing forum has more HONEST, virtuous FISHERMEN than any other in the entire world wide interwebs.
RichardJarel reply :
I guess I'm one of the lucky ones...
My wife is my BEST friend... EVER! We got married late in life (7 years ago). She TOTALLY supports my fishing whenever I can get a chance to. She grew up fishing and we love to go together. I work at home and some times have "days off" during the week. Last time I completed a project I was having problems with, I emailed her to share the relief... Her reply: "Have fun Fishing"! Don't get me wrong, we love spending time together doing anything including just talking... But she has gotten really excited that I have gotten this excited about Bass fishing and is the first one to suggest that I head out to the lake. She reminds me to bring my cell phone in case she wants to ask what time to have dinner ready when I get back, but not to rush... Honey, stay out till dark, cause that's when they really start to bite.
Geeze! How lucky can one guy get? I get to have her AND go fishing!
thinkingredneck reply :
If you want to go fishing, just start acting romantic and 4 out of 5 times she'll send you fishing.
burrows reply :
Ive lied quite a few times to my wife of 12 years about where I was at but was fishing instead. She always finds out always so I just tell her the truth now. She doesn’t get upset about it like she used to.
Now lies about how much I spend on tackle well I still haven’t been able to break that habit ????
“ Oh what a tangled web we weave when we practice to deceive “
N Florida Mike reply :
I don't remember ever lying to my wife about going fishing. She used to try to control me early on in the marriage, like constantly trying to legislate my schedule . I did some side work after my regular job, and would fish after the job at ponds wherever I was, and didn't tell her. That's the closest I came to lying, I reckon. Through the years, I've found that the " happy wife-happy life " thing is pretty true, so I am learning to do things that are important to her and show I love her. Now that she knows I really love her, she doesn't have any problem with my fishing.
I used to think " If I do this for her, or with her I'll be missing out on what I could catch today " Even though I laugh or smile when I hear " I'm gonna miss her " by Brad Paisley, and though some of you wouldn't agree, my wife means more to me than my fishing.( Gulp, I actually said it )
Ever since I've tried to really love her like I should, now I have so much more time to fish, and I mean time when I'm not stressed wondering if I should be doing something for her- because I already have been doing it.
Not saying I've arrived, just better than before.
.ghoti. reply :
I was going to say, if you have to lie to your wife to go fishing, you have the wrong wife.
That's not correct.
If you have to lie to your wife to go fishing, she has the wrong husband.
The Bassman reply :
Never have to lie about it. She works a lot of hours and when she's home she's happy to spend time with the cats and watch her fixer upper shows. If I'm there I want to watch some cheesy B movie or Sanford and Son reruns.
lo n slo reply :
On 6/8/2018 at 3:31 AM, J Francho said:"Lies by omission" are something I've been very guilty of in the past. Something I'm constantly trying to break the habit of.
you sound alot like my son
XzyluM reply :
I never lie to my wife about going fishing. Her best friend got me into bass fishing and most of the time, I am fishing with one of her friends anyway. I don't even lie about the rods and reels and tackle I buy often. She always tell me that as long as the bills are paid, she doesn't care. Trust is very important to a relationship, so why risk losing it in the first place.
toni63 reply :
Kind of off topic, but still relevant, is my friend who's dad "retired" from working (he was a Mac Tools guy) for two years before he told his wife he retired.
He had been stock car racing on and off most of his life, and when not racing he went to the track with his son who raced too, but his wife was never interested. He had a shop where he ran his business out of, and his race cars were kept there the various periods of his life when he had them.
Well he was in his early 60's and decided to quit smoking so he figured he'd need a hobby. So he bought a modified and put it in the shop and didn't tell his wife. Then he figured he made his money, enough to retire, so he sold his Mac route and retired, and didn't tell his wife. So every day he would get up and get dressed "for work" in his Mac tools stuff and drive off to the shop and work on the Modified, and then on Fridays go racing with his son, but his wife was none the wiser because there was never any change in his daily routine.
Of course, when he crashed it one night that all changed, but he managed to pull it off for a couple seasons before it caught up with him. He's in his late 70's now, and you can still see him pedaling his modified a few times a year and he is still married to the same long-suffering racing widow who loves him anyway.
Arlo Smithereen reply :
On 6/6/2018 at 10:57 PM, NYWayfarer said:That mantra is usually followed by another one:
"Why do men die before their wives? Because they want to."
You're a wise man, sir.
burrows reply :
All of a sudden everybody’s a marriage counselor! Come on man cut it out! Every one has lied to their wives at one time or the other and the truth is most wives don’t like us to go fishing all the time.
BCline reply :
My wife occasionally also reads this forum, so I absolutely NEVER lie about when and how much I fish.
Rpratt reply :
Does telling your wife that work is gonna be slow tomorrow so the boss said to take the day off, and then tell her you are going fishing count as something bad? ????????
Riazuli reply :
I just say I'm going fishing. Taking time to yourself is healthy for you and your marriage. Early on, I communicated fishing as more of a necessity than leisure - it helps me refresh for work and school and keeps me in a better mood, which is good for our relationship. With everything, there should be a balance too - so, as long as you're spending time with her and the kids, there is no reason you shouldn't spend time for yourself. To rephrase that - you should spend some time for yourself for the sake of harmony in yourself, obligations, home, and things in general.
dave reply :
Knowing Junger personally (and having had his wife on my boat too) trust me, he's not fooling her. LOL
Log Catcher reply :
I had my wife wondering what I was doing one time. I was going fishing with a guy from work that I had never fished with before. We were going to a new lake we had never been to before. He lived closer to the lake and wanted to take his boat. I drove to his house and we went fishing. Imagine my wifes surprise when she finds my boat sitting in the garage. I just honestly forgot to tell her we were taking his boat.
kenmitch reply :
I tell the wife I'm going to the lake for a couple hours. Leave before 6am and come home when I've had enough. Sometimes it's a couple, couple hours in the end.
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