Is it a trap? 2025
bassinhole reply :
So I was discussing our complete lack of plans for this weekend with my lady. She isn't typically the valentines day type and gets rather indigent when presented with gifts on that particular day. She tells me I should go fishing on V-day and she can sleep in...
Is it a trap?
Should I go?
Should I do the exact opposite?
I'm so confused...
no39 reply :
It's always a trap.
Choporoz reply :
Once you admit to yourself that you cannot win, you'll be closer to finding peace. Go fishing. Get flowers on the way home. Bonus: The flowers might already be on sale by Sun afternoon.
A-Jay reply :
If it's an option at all ~ Send her flowers At Work on Friday. Always a fan favorite . . . . .
It's early , It'll catch her by surprise and she'll be the E N V Y of the Office.
And don't skimp ~ Go Big !
That move may just buy you fishing Saturday & Sunday . . . and she can sleep in both days.
Win ~ Win !
A-Jay
BrianinMD reply :
Go fishing....
bassinhole reply :
On 2/10/2016 at 3:28 AM, A-Jay said:That move may just buy you fishing Saturday & Sunday . . . and she can sleep in both days.
Win ~ Win !
A-Jay
Good call! I like the way you think!
A-Jay reply :
On 2/10/2016 at 3:32 AM, bassinhole said:Good call! I like the way you think!
Thanks ~ whatever it takes to add time on the water . . . . . . .
A-Jay
soflabasser reply :
You can invite her to join you fishing and offer to make a picnic so both of you can enjoy the outdoors.
warrior1 reply :
I say make it look like you went fishing by keeping it quiet and letting her sleep in; then surprise her and spend the day doing something else with her.
I think flowerers with a card that says something like "i went fishing and caught you" would get you a lot more fishing days in the future. 
Hookem Hank reply :
Get it in writing!
Bruce424 reply :
Did she say it sarcastically???!!!!
Phil_NH reply :
Incoming 3 months from now when she gets upset : " and you went fishing on Valentine's day!"
good luck
no39 reply :
On 2/10/2016 at 9:16 AM, Phil_NH said:Incoming 3 months from now when she gets upset : " and you went fishing on Valentine's day!"
good luck
Man, I couldn't stop laughing when I read this.
okiangler reply :
Funny post. Why not try taking her fishing? Who doesn't want something good to look at on their boat while their fishing?
Burtonxj reply :
On 2/10/2016 at 9:16 AM, Phil_NH said:Incoming 3 months from now when she gets upset : " and you went fishing on Valentine's day!"
good luck
End thread
Bluebasser86 reply :
On 2/10/2016 at 5:04 AM, Hookem Hank said:Get it in writing!
Are you going to try to break it out in the middle of the fight?? Talk about making it go from bad to worse.
Fishinthefish reply :
My wife trapped me once, same sort of thing. Luckily I caught it before I was out of cell service. I called and had flowers sent to her, ever since then she never gives me a hard about going when she tells me I can go she doesn't give me a hard time.
JustinU1X reply :
I see it as the same thing when my girlfriend says don't get me anything for Christmas or a random holiday. I'll always end up getting something no matter what. Or go hang out with your friend's ..I always do the opposite to avoid the inevitable arguing. And it's just the nice thing to do for that special someone.
Plus, women have the memory of 10 elephants. You may not hear about it the next day, or month, but believe me you'll hear about it.
Fishinthefish reply :
On 2/10/2016 at 3:51 PM, JustinU1X said:I see it as the same thing when my girlfriend says don't get me anything for Christmas or a random holiday. I'll always end up getting something no matter what. Or go hang out with your friend's ..I always do the opposite to avoid the inevitable arguing. And it's just the nice thing to do for that special someone.
Plus, women have the memory of 10 elephants. You may not hear about it the next day, or month, but believe me you'll hear about it.
Never put the word elephant in the same sentence as your significant other either, I left an argument once almost believing that I actually called her an elephant and was thoroughly confused.
Bankbeater reply :
Tell her that she more important than a fishing trip, and then tell her that you're going to buy flowers, and take her out to dinner. If she still says that you should go fishing, then you are in the clear.
Oregon Native reply :
Then again if you have to ask...hmmmm maybe your heart is telling you to do something nice. I'm believing your in this for the long haul right? So thinking of others goes a long way.......just sayin
KDW96 reply :
When she told you this, DID YOU MAKE EYE CONTACT ? If so , well i think you know what you gotta do.
BassWhole! reply :
A trap? That's 2 3700s full of JDM lipless cranks, with hooks all tangled up.
Flowers, chocolate (the good stuff) and jewelry for sure. Tickets to something she likes, and knows you don't is the icing on the cake.
"You don't need to get me anything" is chick speak for "If you really loved me" Don't do it...
herbu reply :
On 2/10/2016 at 3:12 AM, bassinhole said:Is it a trap?
If you have to ask, it's a trap... or at least, inadvisable. The day will come when you know her well enough to tell. But as long as it's still a gamble, it's not worth it.
ward131 reply :
I've been married for 35 years. If she says go fishing, I go Fishing! If she didn't want me to go she shouldn't say stupid things!
WI_Angler1989 reply :
I agree that you should take advantage somehow, however........
bassinhole reply :
On 2/11/2016 at 1:17 AM, WI_Angler1989 said:
That's exactly what I had in mind when I made this post...
stratoliner92 reply :
Flowers and spend day with her otherwise you stepped right into it
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woody osborne reply :
On 2/11/2016 at 2:50 AM, stratoliner92 said:Flowers and spend day with her otherwise you stepped right into it
SIMPLY PUT: what he said!
Ratherbfishing reply :
I suggest you drug her and then drag her out onto the boat with you. If she later complains, tell her "You got to sleep in, didn't you?"
(Note: drugging anyone is against the law and I do NOT endorse or condone such behavior. This is intended for entertainment purposes only).
mrmacwvu1 reply :
Do something nice like make her dinner the night before and then take her up on her offer. Marriage is the greatest long con of alltime.
WPCfishing reply :
I think you should skip fishing and sleep in with her..
Jaderose reply :
Is it a trap? Of COURSE it's a trap!! SHE may not even realize it but it is. Valentines weekend is also my birthday. Do you think I get to play THAT card? NOPE! With that said, this is a very good opportunity to teach her something. My wife has learned that I don't play with traps. We're both old enough that mind games no longer work. If she says she doesn't mind if I go fishing.....I go fishing and I d**n well won't listen to complaints about it later. The flip side of that is that if she doesn't want me to...I generally don't. One of the nice things about getting older in marriage is that the games stop. We tell each other what we mean.
Evan K reply :
On 2/11/2016 at 5:05 AM, Jaderose said:Is it a trap? Of COURSE it's a trap!! SHE may not even realize it but it is. Valentines weekend is also my birthday. Do you think I get to play THAT card? NOPE! With that said, this is a very good opportunity to teach her something. My wife has learned that I don't play with traps. We're both old enough that mind games no longer work. If she says she doesn't mind if I go fishing.....I go fishing and I d**n well won't listen to complaints about it later. The flip side of that is that if she doesn't want me to...I generally don't. One of the nice things about getting older in marriage is that the games stop. We tell each other what we mean.
This for sure.
My wife and I agreed when we got married to be as honest as possible. If she says go, I go. And if she's at all reluctant about me going, I stay.
Hog Basser reply :
If you do go, make sure you do something extra nice and it has to be in advance of leaving. Tell her it is a thank you for letting you go fishing. Then she will feel guilty if she asks you to stay since you were so excited that you did something special for her just for the offer. Also probably want to invite her along, she will likely refuse since she wants to sleep in, but at least you put it out there that you want to be with her too. I offer to take my wife hunting and fishing all the time, she rarely takes me up on it (and she does enjoy doing it), but I'm not leaving her out either. My life is much better because of these practices.
Last_Cast reply :
Just do it..
Run.
tiredbobmarley reply :
I was invited on a fishing trip this weekend....ran it by my girl and she was like "do whatever makes you happy".....to which I immediately made dinner arrangements.
Choporoz reply :
'Fortunately', temp will top out at 27 on Sun. Temptation averted.
Skunked again reply :
I was told in the beginning, no cards - no flowers. I've obeyed.
When I'm told to "go fishing", I obey!
It means much more that you help around the house, and don't go out drinking, help with the kids.
17.5 years of marriage, still feel like a newlywed!
Lil Joe The Grinder reply :
It's most definitely a trap. It usually is. Get her something... anything. A card, some candy, at least one flower lol. Then ask her to go fishing with you. Whatever her reply is, it's her decision so you're good to go fishin'. Trust me, it works and it's not too much to ask to fish with your favorite chic now and again, especially if she likes to take pictures of the fish you're fighting in mid air 
reb67 reply :
I don't think it is a trap I think it is a test. She is seeing how well her man knows his woman. I have been married for 28 years I can tell you 9 out of 10 times you will fail. Start working on the art of making up. So go fishing. Because like ward131 said she shouldn'the say stupid things.
JustinU1X reply :
Well, let us no how it goes! May the odds be ever in your favor!
N Florida Mike reply :
Maybe not intentionally but it is .I wanted to go today but just knew it would cause issues so Im staying home like a good boy.But I fished for a little while out back and got a 4 pounder!So I reckon I was rewarded for good behavior.
the reel ess reply :
With my ex it would be a dare. With my wife, it would be and is sincere. I agree with sending flowers to work on Friday. In fact, I usually do this and it seems to surprise her every time. Alas, we are in a major cold snap right now. I'll just add up the brownie points for a while.
bassinhole reply :
This has been a fun thread, thank you all for the advice. When I initially posted this it was more to see how everyone else would react to the conversation and get a gauge for how lucky a man I really am. My lady honestly has no interest in Valentines day and would not play games with me regarding fishing. She knows the result of that. After all she is the same woman that did this
for me for Christmas.
But I digress. The weekend went pretty spectacularly. I treated her to a nice dinner Friday night. I went fishing on Saturday and through a calamity of errors all of my own creation I had one of the worse days on the water I've experienced in recent history.
Leaving the lake I got home just in time to join her to a backyard chicken class she was interested in. We then met up with another couple we know for dinner and spent the rest of the evening enjoying the company of friends.
On Sunday we slept in then made breakfast and hung out with our friends for a bit longer before heading home. On the way back to the house we stopped by Academy Sports and shopped around a bit (Nice place! I wish I had one Close to home). Then we drove through a couple of WMAs scouting potential hunting areas and generally just enjoying nature and each others company. Once home we cleaned up and then went to grab a bite to eat at one of our local favorites, and then to see Deadpool.
All in all it was a great weekend. While I didn't go fishing on Sunday that was my decision. While my action was greatly appreciated I know had I gone fishing I would have met no ire over the choice.
Jaderose reply :
I went to BPS and spent $300...on Valentines Day.....by myself. Life is good.
WITH the wife's blessing!
Knightiac reply :
I too, was left with this decision, so naturally I went fishing. Went out and caught a couple hogs, went home, cleaned up and went out to our dinner reservations. It was a fantastic day.
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