How to turn wife into bass junky?? 2024

BigEbass reply :

So I have taken to bass fishing like crazy in the past 1.5 years and fish when I can with my very cool senior neighbor who got me into this obsession.

However, I am not always able to go fishing with him and on my wife's weekends off (she works every other) it would be so very cool if she was into it too!! She is reluctant but willing to try at the moment (my hopes are not too high :-/).

If she was a junky too then I would likely fish more overall!! ;D

So, I got my first little 16 ft bass tracker boat with 30HP merc. last year - I have started going on on it on my own to get a feel for navigating, finding and fishing structure without the help of my neighbor - still much to learn....

How do I increase my odds of ensuring my wife "gets hooked"?? It would be so sweet. I am thinking about taking her to a couple places in west AL that I know of that are pay ponds that really produce consistently.....perhaps to give her some confidence - put her on say a spinnerbait there and reel em in....maybe some topwater too. Will wait till spring to give this a shot.

Any ideas to make my dream come true?

farmpond1 reply :

First, count yourself exceedingly blessed if your wife doesn't give you grief if/when you want to go fishing. So don't push too hard (not saying you would).

First, make it comfortable for her. Don't fish all day in the freezing cold or blazing sun. Look for shade or put an umbrella on your boat. Don't target one giant bass when a handful of smaller bass will likely pique her interest more (at least in the beginning). Heck, for that matter, start with easier species and use live bait if you have to. If she's competitive, throw that element into it. But don't be a braggard and one-up her (unless she hopes to reciprocate later by outfishing you!). I'm sure I'm missing a lot but this is a start.

Matt Fly reply :

Catching alot seems to hook alot of people.

Target easy species while they are easy. Crappie, white bass, hybrids, stripers, all easy fish to target year around.

White bass will or should be in full run up rivers and creeks in NE Tx. Thats an easy day to catch 100 fish in short work.

flyboy reply :

It's great your are thinking about this; that is the first and most important thing you must do. I just came back to bass fishing after a 20 hiatus offshore. I bought a boat and took my wife shopping when I was outfitting the boat. I told her we needed to get equipment for her also. I let her pick it out--most of it had pink on it--and she soon started demanding manly type tackle. She now has six Shimano rods with left hand Chronarch reels that are hers. She is obsessed and can fish with most men; and in only about eight months. She is a business professional approaching retirement and she has astonished me with her prowess for the sport. Be sure to let your wife try a left hand bait caster if she progresses from spinning gear. For some reason it worked for us. My wife has turned into my best fishing buddie and frankly I prefer to fish with her than most anyone else.

Hope this gives you some ideas.

BigEbass reply :

"My wife has turned into my best fishing buddie and frankly I prefer to fish with her than most anyone else."

This would be great for me, I will do my best - thanks for the advice so far guys....

Grey Wolf reply :

What makes you think she is really interested ? Get involved with her activities and she may be more receptive to yours.

stratos 375 reply :

dude, I hate to break the news to you, but it could be the boat. Try gettin a 2010 20' totally pimped out new Bass Cat, w/ dual power poles, a kickin stereo and one of them little fold out mirrors with the lights around it.

There's something in fiberglass & metalflake that just melts a girl's heart.

roadwarrior reply :

Stepford wife...Perfect!

;D ;D ;D

j-bones reply :

I dont know how to turn one into a bass junkie but i know how to turn one into a snow blower or a dish washer. Just hand her a snow shovel or dish rag respectively.

Disclaimer: This was a joke

bobbyc reply :

If i told the wife she'd get a $1000 gift card for Macy's with every bass she catches over nine pounds, you'd have never heard of Kevin Van Dam.

burleytog reply :

Wise that isn't. Good is alone time.

BigEbass reply :

jbones, you made me laugh so hard with that comment ;D

BigEbass reply :

"There's something in fiberglass & metalflake that just melts a girl's heart.

hahaha - perhaps - but I know she is committed cause she stayed with me even through using canoe and trolling motor

BigEbass reply :

Note to everyone too - my wife works 12 hour shifts as a pharmacist (I am a pharmacist too) - she works every other weekend - I work mon-fri 9-5 pretty much, so I have my weekends to fish by myself and with my neighbor, but I would dig it if she enjoyed some of her weekends off fishing with me - and later in retirement she may perhaps want to go on fishing trips....its probably all a pipe dream, but she is fairly out-doors-y - we do some mountain biking on the side and camping - now just need her to take to fishing.

We will see how it works out this year starting in the spring...but if she does not "take the bait" I still have my weekends off

Fishing Rhino reply :

After nearly 45 years of marriage, I'll offer this bit from experience. Things which might seem ideal on the surface can become the source of stress in a relationship.

If you can get your wife interested in fishing, great. But if not, don't force the issue. Be thankful she doesn't mind you going fishing.

My wife is not interested in fishing because she does not like the thought of hurting the fish. Maybe that stems from her nursing background.

She doesn't remember the time she went striper fishing with me in '73 and caught a 17 pounder. She thought it was great at the time, but it apparently had no life altering affect on her.

It's good to do things together, but it's also good to have personal time as well. "Familiarity breeds contempt" and all that stuff.

I'll play golf with my wife, and go fishing by myself or with a buddy.

My wife can go to T J Maxx without me. In fact, I prefer it that way.

BigEbass reply :

Definately will not force it and certainly am glad I have my weekends to myself no matter what!

In all likelihood I am forcasting that she will not take to it which will be just fine really - but I hated fishing until a very distinct time in summer 2008 - so perhaps if she has some bit of positive experience with bass fishing she will take to it....we will see.

zero reply :

just give her ugly stik pink combo and a senko

thats how i got my girlfriend hooked on fishing and also when i teach her how to fish i target white perch,panfish easier for her to catch then move to bass fishing

D4u2s0t reply :

here's what "works" for me, and I say "works" very, very loosely... but it gets her on the boat more than she would otherwise come. I bought her a bag of pink senkos, and a bag of pink flukes. (She picked out the flukes) She likes the pink baits, so that definitely helps. Let her pick out her own fishing pole, my girl happened to like a 5" ul pole... ideal for bass fishing? Nope, but it's the one she likes, so she doesn't mind using it as much. If I gave her a 7' mh rod, she would use it about 2 casts. Next, I always make sure I take a pass by the swim docks when it's warm out, so we can take a dip in the lake. I also always ask her where she wants to go on the lake, so she doesn't feel like she's just sitting there in the boat. I find myself trolling alot too, so it's more like a "boat ride" around the lake vs. sitting somewhere and working cover for a long time.

These things def. help, and while she's not waking me up on a saturday to go fishing, she certainly doesn't mind going out as much.

A-Jay reply :

I have been fishing with my wife for two years now. It's the best. We plan days and trips around what will bring us the best fishing. Rather than pass on to you what "I Think" helped my wife get into fishing with me, I'll just let her tell you ~

Hi BigEBass, I am excited to answer your post. My husband and I moved to northern MI three years ago. Before we moved, we lived on the east coast and he was an avid striped bass fisherman. Once we found out we were moving to the Midwest, he began switching his tackle to freshwater bass. This is where I came in. He included me in the articles he read online and in the online shopping. This was before I ever even considered that he wanted me to go fishing too. But he was luring me in with the "bait monkey". We had moved in the fall, so we experienced our first, 6 month long, 17 feet of snow winter. April, still under snow, was my birthday. A-Jay bought me my first rod & reel. Now this was important. He spent a good deal of time ensuring it was the perfect size and weight for me. I am also an out-doorsy girl, so he made sure it was not one of those Barbie pink rods. Next step, we bought both of our fishing licenses. We had a couple weeks until the season opened so we took this opportunity to drive around together to look at the local lakes, check the ramps and their facilities. If you take your wife along to see the lakes with you in advance, it builds up the anticipation for her too.

Fishing day is finally here. We pack our truck, lunch and off we go. Something to take into consideration before you set out on the water is the "outhouse" situation. Is there an outhouse? Does your wife mind "going" behind a tree? Is there enough privacy for that? All needs to be considered before the boat is in the water. Don't wait until she has to go. When she does, don't make a big deal about it and bust her chops. Just say OK and take her to the nearest oak tree or outhouse. (Always be sure to have toilet paper in your boat) Now that that is taken care of... I am/was a newbie to fishing. A-Jay bought me a spinning rod and reel. He very patiently taught me how to cast correctly and perhaps more importantly how to fight a fish correctly. He talked me through fighting the fish until it was securely in the net. He kept his voice calm the entire time, no matter how big the bass was. When we set out on the lake, he had usually already fished it, knew where to go and where the structure was. So when we went, he always put me on THE spots and let me cast first. Always. He acts more as a guide. Believe me, he is not missing out on fishing. He still has the "Family Angler of the Year" title and "Big Bass of the Year", both species, both years running. We have little tournaments every time we go. It's fun. I have even won a couple times. Something else that is very important is, your time on the water is fishing time. It is not time to chat about home, work, problems, money, etc. Your time fishing is a time to relax, get into the moment and escape. Enjoy your time with each other and don't worry about the stress of the world on your shoulders. All that stuff will be there when you get back to shore. Personally, I have my chemo on Wednesdays. Usually miserable days. As are Thursday & Friday. But A-Jay looks me in the eyes and convinces me to get up and go fishing. You know what? Every time, I am thankful I did! I am on the water with my husband fishing and it is AWESOME!

A-Jay and I also read BR together. Keeps us sane through these long days of winter as we look out the window and see nothing but piles of snow.

My husband showed me that bass fishing can be fun, but I have actually become a "husband junky".

A-Jay's wife - Lynn

SMfisher reply :

got my wife into bass fishing before we got married, the first trip i took her we was wade fishing all day, first time she had wade fished she loved it, gets a tan while she is fishing. now every time she gets a day off she wants to go fishing. be careful it seems like she catches the biggest fish of the day and not shy about rubbing it in.

also got her into deer hunting, the thing i like about her she would rather be fishing and hunting than shopping but she does like the bait monkey.

A-Jay reply :

BigEbass wrote (on another thread)

"I have my first child on the way - we will see how that alters my best list"

My wife and I had not read the above information prior to adding to this thread. That particular detail is REALLY going to change things quite a bit.

I'm sure you realize that your priorities are about to change. You are going to be two very busy people for a while.

Congratulations and best of luck to you both.

A-Jay

BigEbass reply :

heh heh,

To A-jay's wife - thank you so much for your wonderful thoughts and perspective - I will take it to heart.

Regarding the children - I did not include this detail as to not confuse the matter, but you are right - we pretty much will be doing little fishing as the child is growing up - we will have a nanny though and I plan on fishing at a minimum still one saturday per month ;D - but fishing will not be a priority for a while now. But I also hope that when my child perhaps takes to fishing, my wife will be involved too - a whole family ordeal sometimes perhaps ;D

rancocasrich reply :

This is a very interesting topic. I am retired and willingly do a lot with my wife. When we travel, it is my wife who suggests I stop at Cabelas or Bass Pro. I suggest to her we stop at certain antique stores. She does not really fish but I have made my 14' Lund "woman-friendly" for her with a comfortable beach-type chair. She usually just reads while I fish (our boat is the "book 'n hook") but will take up a rod if they are biting or if I have one on, she may take the rod and bring it in. I think it best not to push the issue but make the opportunity for her an easy and enjoyable shared experience.

IwillChooseFreeWill reply :

I am of the belief that there are certain things that we do where it is better to go with a friend or by yourself, than to bring a spouse along all the time.

In my case I go fishing to get away from the wife and kids, even if we all go, or if we are camping at the lake, I still go fishing to get away and to relax. Sometimes my wife will fish too but she prefers to just sit back and relax, usually without a pole.

Now that I have my canoe I can get farther away

BigEbass reply :

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I am of the belief that there are certain things that we do where it is better to go with a friend or by yourself, than to bring a spouse along all the time.
In my case I go fishing to get away from the wife and kids, even if we all go, or if we are camping at the lake, I still go fishing to get away and to relax. Sometimes my wife will fish too but she prefers to just sit back and relax, usually without a pole.

Now that I have my canoe I can get farther away

As I said before - I have my fishing weekends to my self every other weekend. My wife works every other weekend and I tend to go fishing on those weekends and that all works out just fine. However, she has interest to get out on my modest little bass boat with me and I will test the waters - either way it goes, I will still have my me time (again sort of disreagard the whole kids thing for now, that will put a big asterix on these statements, but a happy asterix).

BigEbass reply :

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This is a very interesting topic. I am retired and willingly do a lot with my wife. When we travel, it is my wife who suggests I stop at Cabelas or Bass Pro. I suggest to her we stop at certain antique stores. She does not really fish but I have made my 14' Lund "woman-friendly" for her with a comfortable beach-type chair. She usually just reads while I fish (our boat is the "book 'n hook") but will take up a rod if they are biting or if I have one on, she may take the rod and bring it in. I think it best not to push the issue but make the opportunity for her an easy and enjoyable shared experience.

Now this is likely what will happen with my wife if I had to totally guess - we can do some swimming, she can read if she wants and lay out, but pick up a pole if she is interested - again, I will not pressure her, you cannot force someone to like something anyway :-/

Having said this, If she doesnt take much to the fishing component on the boat, she probably will not want to be out for more than 4-6 hours I am guessing....we will see.

Regarding people asking me to fish for easier species...I do not frankly know all that many tactics for say bluegill or crappie in my area - besides a simple worm/hook/bobber from the docks type of fishing. She has actually done some bank fishing with me once and caught 4-5 bluegill off a worm and sinker (no bobber!) - I was impressed - her first time fishing and she did better bottome fishing! I think the hardest part for her regarding bass fishing will be casting....

Long Mike reply :

I'm with Rhino on this one. My wife doesn't like to fish or want to fish. She's a CPA, so the Spring time of year demands all of her time and, lucky for me, she's glad to get rid of me. This is the time of year when I plan all of my out-of-state fishing trips. Lucky me! ;D

BigEbass reply :

I think that every relationship, every person is just different, that is evident based on these responses - some are passionate in fishing with their bass junky wives, some just fish with em casually, some not at all - but whatever works is all good with me.

Fishing Cowgirl reply :

I was introduced into fishing by my family, and come from a long ling of outdoors -oriented people. Starting from the cane pole and bobber then moving on to sitting my my pony, knee deep in Shingle creek with my Zebco and a creme worm. Lastly siting in a john boat as about 13 yrs old with my 11 yr old brother, flinging a Rebel hard bait around and hooking into a lunker so close to the boat, we were both soaked when it started head slinging and jumping!

When I met my husband, he was "boatless" at the time, and expressed an interest in getting back into fishing. That led to a boat purchase and him showing me a larger assortment of soft plastics, and how to texas rig a toad or fluke.

After the first top water bite on a toad, I was hooked! You've got lot's o great advice.

We both have government jobs and fishing is our quiet, relaxing, and fun time. I suggest a local "couples tournament" in your area. We are in one that is maybe 5-8 boats, with exemptions, leave at safe light and end at noon, pay out then everyone go out to lunch together. No real pressure, but ton's of fun and fellowship after. other ladies and a common interest.

BigEbass reply :

I work for the VA too so I know what you mean - fishing is my escape! (although I like my job well enough).

Soft plastics changed my life too - I was originally introduced into fishing as a kid by my own family, but they were mainly bank fisherman - my one brother got into some bass fishing, but he really failed to inspire me at first when I fished with him from a canoe - he couldnt catch them as regularly....met my neighbor who is 68 and a bass junky and went with him - boy that was a different experience - finally introduced truly to how to use soft plastics myself - I too love to fish em - down here my fav. is either a plastic frog or a trick worm fished weightless on top - the worm never fails when those bass are active.

Anyway - my confidence in my own abilities are beginning to grow (this winter has been a setback on my confidence though) - hopefully with this, I can guide my wife well enough to make it enjoyable - I will be doing some pre-fishing by myself this spring to make sure it will not be a flop - most of the times so far I have tagged along with my neighbor and that has been sort of a crutch for me at times as I am not forced to analyze spots, structure, etc...I am doing that much more now...

I like the tournament idea - probably wont start with that, but if she takes to us fishing a bit, it would be a great way to meet people and socialize - thanks for the advice.

FishinTN reply :

Don't let her get to into it, then she'll see how much all those "neccessities" cost...

K_Mac reply :

I think anyone interested in getting their wife into fishing should read A-Jay and his wife Lynn's post a couple of times. His patience in getting her involved, inviting her input, and preparing her to be successful is a fine example for all of us IMHO. A-Jay you are the man.

My wife and I have fished together regularly for years. She is a better fishing partner than most of the guys I fish with. If bottom-bouncing plastics are the order of the day, I better bring my A-game or she will out-fish me. She often does. Fishing is a chance for us to spend time together doing something we both love. It has helped us to grow together as a couple.

I understand the need to have alone time, and time with the guys. Fishing allows me to do that. It also allows me to spend time with my wife away from the challenges and distractions of daily life. It's all good. 8-)

BigEbass reply :

heh heh - good point

However, we follow a very strict budget.....everthing I purchase that is relative to fishing or hobbies comes out of my spending portion of my personal income (5% - about 240 bucks a month) - when I bought my boat my budget didnt justify the purchase so I work an extra day a month to pay for the boat.

If my wife gets into it, she will have to spend money out of her spending funds (about the same amt as mine, our income is the same) and she never spends any money, I think she has liek 1200 bucks in her spending at the moment - I keep trying to get her to transfer some of that into my spending ;D

BigEbass reply :

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I think anyone interested in getting their wife into fishing should read A-Jay and his wife Lynn's post a couple of times. His patience in getting her involved, inviting her input, and preparing her to be successful is a fine example for all of us IMHO. A-Jay you are the man.
My wife and I have fished together regularly for years. She is a better fishing partner than most of the guys I fish with. If bottom-bouncing plastics are the order of the day, I better bring my A-game or she will out-fish me. She often does. Fishing is a chance for us to spend time together doing something we both love. It has helped us to grow together as a couple.

I understand the need to have alone time, and time with the guys. Fishing allows me to do that. It also allows me to spend time with my wife away from the challenges and distractions of daily life. It's all good. 8-)

This is exactly what I am looking for - it would be a nice arrangement just as it is for you and for A-jay

roadwarrior reply :

Man, this thread is classic!

CAdeltaLipRipper reply :

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Catching alot seems to hook alot of people.
Target easy species while they are easy. Crappie, white bass, hybrids, stripers, all easy fish to target year around.

White bass will or should be in full run up rivers and creeks in NE Tx. Thats an easy day to catch 100 fish in short work.

Idk if id want my spouse to be "hooked" on it lol

nboucher reply :

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This is a very interesting topic. I am retired and willingly do a lot with my wife. When we travel, it is my wife who suggests I stop at Cabelas or Bass Pro. I suggest to her we stop at certain antique stores. She does not really fish but I have made my 14' Lund "woman-friendly" for her with a comfortable beach-type chair. She usually just reads while I fish (our boat is the "book 'n hook") but will take up a rod if they are biting or if I have one on, she may take the rod and bring it in. I think it best not to push the issue but make the opportunity for her an easy and enjoyable shared experience.

Now this is likely what will happen with my wife if I had to totally guess - we can do some swimming, she can read if she wants and lay out, but pick up a pole if she is interested - again, I will not pressure her, you cannot force someone to like something anyway :-/

Having said this, If she doesnt take much to the fishing component on the boat, she probably will not want to be out for more than 4-6 hours I am guessing....we will see.

Regarding people asking me to fish for easier species...I do not frankly know all that many tactics for say bluegill or crappie in my area - besides a simple worm/hook/bobber from the docks type of fishing. She has actually done some bank fishing with me once and caught 4-5 bluegill off a worm and sinker (no bobber!) - I was impressed - her first time fishing and she did better bottome fishing! I think the hardest part for her regarding bass fishing will be casting....

I think this is really wise. No one knows your wife better than you, so I'm sure you know best what'll work. I think it's good to ask what you're after. Do you want someone to fish with, or do you want to spend some time with your wife?

I've spent quality time on the water with my wife, but I fish while she suns, reads, naps, etc. It's a couple hours to get away from the chaos of the house and talk. Maybe it's not serious fishing time, but it's pretty special nonetheless.

BigEbass reply :

"I've spent quality time on the water with my wife, but I fish while she suns, reads, naps, etc. It's a couple hours to get away from the chaos of the house and talk. Maybe it's not serious fishing time, but it's pretty special nonetheless. "

This will likely be what we will do if she doesnt take to the fishing aspect much....and I would be fine with that - in the end as long as we could spend some time out there and enjoy it, it would be cool - if she takes to it to become a fisherwoma, then all the more bonus IMO...we will see

little_stephen reply :

marry your own Pam Martin-Wells. lol JK

or dont get married........

just kidding. i get my fiance to go fishing with me. and if i can keep her going about once every two weeks, by the end of the summer ive got her asking me to go once a week!

But i dont know if id call that a bass junky!?

The one thing ive learned is that as long as im hooking her crawlers, unhooking her fish..... and always applauding her, shes happy. (that is for about two hours, then shes bored...lol) The thing i think is key, is to let her enjoy the time at the lake regardless. My sweetheart takes a book and a lawn chair along alot to just sit back and relax once shes done with fishing.

So u might say my strategy is to slowly train her, slowly build up her tolerance levels, almost like training a pup! (Did I just say that!? Dont tell the Mrs!)

Here, have a look at how happy she is.........

little_stephen reply :

*Note the PINK rod...... that helped alot too! Even if its fishing, it has to be fashionable or she wont use it. lol I even bought her a pack of pink trick worms to play with when im fishing isolated spots, and she actually landed a little dink bass on one of them!

SBM-RL reply :

catch fish! thats how to get em hooked start with giving her something simple like a senko, spinnerbait, or jitterbug. I had a girlfriend that loved to fish she even bought her own lures and stuff it was awesome!

Jaben reply :

I just took mine and that was it.

BigEbass reply :

I am happy to say we just got back from cruising around lay lake this morning - it was 60+ degress baby (water temp still 44-46 though) - blue bird skies. The Mrs rode along and read a book - we didnt pack a lunch cause we had to be back home anyway to meet some friends, but it was promising - she didnt fish yet - I didnt really want her to start fishing in such conditions - tough bite right now, plus she has not yet got her license yet. I brought a lawn chair and she brought a book and chilled out - I fished a few spots for 30-40 minutes - then we motored back and had lunch - it was fun - we will start doing a bit of fishing perhaps once spring hits for real 8-)

PS - I use a pink trick worm for topwater A TON down her in alabama - it is actually my favorite topwater choice alot of times

Thanks for advice so far everyone.

Another question - AJays wife mentioned this, but what suggestions do people have about the wife needing to pee in the boat - I offered her today either to stop somewhere to go behind a tree or to bring a bucket in the boat.....I wonder if there is a product for such that wil make this easier - I simply hang it out there off the boat and go but for the women folk, doesnt exactly work does it

BigEbass reply :

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marry your own Pam Martin-Wells. lol JK
or dont get married........

just kidding. i get my fiance to go fishing with me. and if i can keep her going about once every two weeks, by the end of the summer ive got her asking me to go once a week!

But i dont know if id call that a bass junky!?

The one thing ive learned is that as long as im hooking her crawlers, unhooking her fish..... and always applauding her, shes happy. (that is for about two hours, then shes bored...lol) The thing i think is key, is to let her enjoy the time at the lake regardless. My sweetheart takes a book and a lawn chair along alot to just sit back and relax once shes done with fishing.

So u might say my strategy is to slowly train her, slowly build up her tolerance levels, almost like training a pup! (Did I just say that!? Dont tell the Mrs!)

Here, have a look at how happy she is.........

That is a nice bass she has there

Thanks for the advice - and like I said, I am a big fan of the pink trick worm, but only when used weedless as topwater - not sure if it will work in your neck of the woods necessarily....

little_stephen reply :

That day she outfished me...... lemme think back... oh thats right......

3 Cat Fish, 5 Bass (Including that one which is our 2nd biggest weve cought there), 4 Bluegill, 2 Crappie, 2 Box Turtles, & A Snapping Turtle

to my 2 dinks......... or something like that!

My trick is to just make sure she has something to keep her busy when we go fishing! Its worked a number of times! One time i actually got her to go fishing with me on the lake, we rented a jonboat with a trolling motor, and i had her steer me around the lake while i fished, shed read, id just call out, left, more left, right......... ect. lol She was studying for her Nursing Theory Final. and she got an A on it! ;D

Sadly she graduate........ :-? (Maybe not sadly, she pays the bills) And now i cant pull the old, "Hey, wanna go to the lake and 'Study?'" Trick!

Fishing Doug reply :

Luckily, my old lady wants nothing to do with fishing, hunting, or the golf course and I intend to keep it that way.

BigEbass reply :

Whatever works for you doug - I am sure you spend other quality time with the Mrs

mrbassky reply :

How about subliminal messages on the Lifetime channel.

BigEbass reply :

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How about subliminal messages on the Lifetime channel.

Good idea - perhaps I will play some tapes or fishing videos while she is asleep....

Chaz Hickcox reply :

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After nearly 45 years of marriage, I'll offer this bit from experience. Things which might seem ideal on the surface can become the source of stress in a relationship.
If you can get your wife interested in fishing, great. But if not, don't force the issue. Be thankful she doesn't mind you going fishing.

My wife is not interested in fishing because she does not like the thought of hurting the fish. Maybe that stems from her nursing background.

She doesn't remember the time she went striper fishing with me in '73 and caught a 17 pounder. She thought it was great at the time, but it apparently had no life altering affect on her.

It's good to do things together, but it's also good to have personal time as well. "Familiarity breeds contempt" and all that stuff.

I'll play golf with my wife, and go fishing by myself or with a buddy.

My wife can go to T J Maxx without me. In fact, I prefer it that way.

Question: What if I get my wife into fishing with me? The whole familiarity thing would not necessarily apply as I am usually gone 7 months out of the year (Unless the President decides for us to lose our day jobs in Iraq and Afghanistan). I took her out this weekend, before we left she was asking for the quintessential, "Just one more cast, please." Also, I told her before we went out that the water is far too cold for the fishing to be great. Yeah with a slow presentation and a good location we would have done alright, but too much slowness to be able to teach her well.

BigEbass reply :

The whole concern regarding too much familiarity is person to person dependent I think - some people need more alone time - some people less - I like my weekends to myself sometimes, but I also spend quite a bit of time with my wife and do not mind it really at all - we lived in very close quarters during college, in all the same classes in pharmacy school - studied together non stop and we were always still crazy about each other - not to say that this is for everyone with personalities likely varying, but it works for me fine and others too.

Yeah, I opted to wait till the spring to fish more with the wife due to this issue - doubt any newcomer is likely to take to it right off in tougher fishing conditions - now that I have learned to catch them more, I dont mind fewer bites in the winter - I feel I have to work for them harder and feel like an accomplishment when I do get em - but fore a brand new person, it does not build any confidence much at all IMO.

Very cool that your wife was wanting to "make one last cast" - thats the spirit!!!

SirSnookalot reply :

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How to turn wife into bass junky??

WHY?

Been married a long time and my wife is as interested in me tagging along with her at Nordstroms as I am in taking her fishing. Being retired we see a lot of each other and " personal down time" works well in my marriage. My wife is my queen.

LCpointerKILLA reply :

What? That is like asking you wife to get into the Superbowl.

swilly78 reply :

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After nearly 45 years of marriage, I'll offer this bit from experience. Things which might seem ideal on the surface can become the source of stress in a relationship.
If you can get your wife interested in fishing, great. But if not, don't force the issue. Be thankful she doesn't mind you going fishing.

My wife is not interested in fishing because she does not like the thought of hurting the fish. Maybe that stems from her nursing background.

She doesn't remember the time she went striper fishing with me in '73 and caught a 17 pounder. She thought it was great at the time, but it apparently had no life altering affect on her.

It's good to do things together, but it's also good to have personal time as well. "Familiarity breeds contempt" and all that stuff.

I'll play golf with my wife, and go fishing by myself or with a buddy.

My wife can go to T J Maxx without me. In fact, I prefer it that way.

Question: What if I get my wife into fishing with me? The whole familiarity thing would not necessarily apply as I am usually gone 7 months out of the year (Unless the President decides for us to lose our day jobs in Iraq and Afghanistan). I took her out this weekend, before we left she was asking for the quintessential, "Just one more cast, please." Also, I told her before we went out that the water is far too cold for the fishing to be great. Yeah with a slow presentation and a good location we would have done alright, but too much slowness to be able to teach her well.

God bless you Bro, and Semper fi. Im reading Chestys biography now, and your with a helluva unit. Back on subject, Ive tried for 4 years and my ol' lady has no interest in fishing. However, Ive recently been authourized to purchase a boat if its back deck is big enough for her to lay out on. Life is good.

Luke at Gouldsboro reply :

bribe her. for a 5 lb bass she gets new make-up, 7 lb - new shoes, 10 lb- new purse !!! ya never know.

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